If you are getting divorced and you have children, you are probably trying to work with your former spouse to figure out who has custody of your kids as well as things like child support and which parent is going to pay for particular things. You're doing all this while you are trying to keep things as normal as possible for your kids. Odds are that they feel like their entire lives are being torn apart. What are some things that you can do to help your kids get through the divorce procedures and their new lives after the divorce. If you aren't sure where to start, your divorce attorney can help you with finding a counselor.
One thing that you can do to help your children is to arrange some counseling. There are a lot of options that you can use, and you may want to try a combination of counseling options including anxiety counseling. They can not only help your kids, but they can help you.
Counseling for Your Child
You can find a counselor who works specifically with children. They can help your children process their feelings in a safe space. Depending on the age of your kids, they may see your kids separately. They will see you at the beginning or the end of the appointment to catch you up on everything, but seeing your child separately lets them talk about their feelings without you around, so if they are angry at you, they can express that feeling without worrying about you and how you will react.
Another option is to use family counseling. Family counseling doesn't mean that your ex-spouse has to be there, but it's a place for you and your kids to talk about what's going on. The thing about counseling is that you are in a safe place with an objective observer who can help everyone talk through what they are feeling and who can help you and your kids learn new ways to handle those feelings and tools to make sure that everyone is handling everything in a healthy way. It's way too easy for people to get angry at others in their family because they are scared of what's going on. It's a lot easier to be angry than scared, and the counselor can help you figure out the way to help handle all that anger without lashing out at each other.
If you are going through a divorce, it can be hard for your kids, especially while you are dealing with who is going to have custody. A counselor is one way to make sure that everything goes smoothly. Your divorce lawyer may have a recommendation about counselor that you can visit.